Itโs been 10 years.
Ten years since the perpetrator took a cab to the Safeway at Ina and Oracle and used his firearm to murder six Tucsonans and physically injure 13 people who had gathered on a normal sunny winter morning to meet with their congresswoman, Gabby Giffords.
Anniversary isnโt the right word to designate this day โ we celebrate anniversaries. Observance, commemoration, remembrance. None is quite accurate. Iโm going with what survivor Patricia Maisch says: We mark the day.
We mark the day these Tucsonans were taken from their friends, families and community: Christina-Taylor Green, 9; Dorothy โDotโ Morris, 76; U.S. District Judge John M. Roll, 63; Phyllis Schneck, 79; Dorwan Stoddard, 76; and Gabriel โGabeโ Zimmerman, 30.
When Maisch tells of that day, how sheย grabbed ammunition away from the perpetrator before he could reload after Bill Badger and Roger Salzgeber tackled him, how he shouted that she was hurting him as she pinned his ankles to the ground with her knees, her voice quiets to steel.
Maisch has shared her experience in front of Congress, at rallies, in interviews, comforting other survivors and trying to convince lawmakers to do something to stop gun violence, to not make it so damn easy to acquire a firearm in the United States.
Today weโre facing an additional pandemic, which like gun violence spreads through our culture, killing thousands of people even while others refuse to acknowledge the danger is real and lethal.
COVID-19 has changed how we canย come together. The vigils and gatherings of years past are gone, and comfort must come through a screen, via the written word or a voice on the line. Tucsonans held the victimsโ loved ones and the survivors so close back then, and survivors have said they remember how that love and support helped them.
Changes thread through the stories of Jan. 8 and its aftermath. Personal changes, of course, but also changes that have taken public shape. The drive to protect others from experiencing the suffering we have endured is powerfully human.
Patricia Maisch, Mary Reed, Pam Simon and others have turned the horror they saw, heard and felt as they learned firsthand what bullets do to flesh and bone into becoming powerhouse activists with gun safety reform organizations.
Iโve gotten to know these women. They are undeterred by and unafraid of intransigent politicians, the wealthy NRA gun lobby or anyone with the indecency to try to โthere, there โ youโre just being emotionalโ them into submission.
Finding a way through grief is intensely personal. And itโs almost never direct.
Suzi Hileman, who survived being shot, has found a home at Prince Elementary School. She was first invited in early spring 2011 to judge a student photo contest. A kindergarten teacher, whose students had written stories about happiness, asked if they could please read them to her? Of course.
The Prince kids that year, like the rest of Tucson, knew her story. They asked questions โ What does getting shot feel like? Could they see the bullet holes? โ and she became a regular on campus, the Official Adopted Grandmother of Prince Elementary School.
Grandma Suzi makes sure the kids know about her 9-year-old friend, Christina-Taylor Green, who went with her to meet Gabby Giffords and was killed. โItโs a way of keeping her alive for me,โ she said. โItโs my best way to honor her.โ
And she makes sure every child knows that when you see a gun, you run.
โIโm a living, breathing example of what happens when someone doesnโt use their words and uses a gun instead,โ she tells them. Sheโs no longer surprised how many kids have friends or family members who have been shot or pulled the trigger at someone else.
Hileman started her nonprofit GRandparentsINresidence (GRIN) to raise money to buy books, kidsโ shoelaces and more for Prince Elementary and to encourage others to volunteer. She revived the school garden and spent recess time on Wednesdays supervising Garden Club, advising kids on planting and listening to whatever they want to talk about. Suzi still meets a fifth grade class over Zoom once a week to chat about gardening.
Last Jan. 8 she stood on the playground, threw open her arms and said to the world: โGrandma needs a hug!โ Kids flocked from every direction and formed a hug line so they didnโt knock her over.
โThe sad is overwhelming. Itโs impossible to be sad when little ones are hugging you. I canโt focus on the losses when thereโs all this potential in front of me,โ she said.
Progress treating gun violence as a public health emergency will be made โ in part because so many of those directly affected have turned to elected office to become the people who make decisions.
Dr. Randy Friese treated gunshot trauma victims that day at University Medical Center. Daniel Hernandez Jr. was a brand new Giffords congressional office intern 10 years ago. Both men say their experience prompted them to run for the Arizona Legislature. Both were reelected in November.
Ron Barber, then working for Giffords, survived the bullets and went on to represent Giffordsโ district in Congress after she retired. He has been working for Congresswoman Ann Kirkpatrick.
Gabbyโs husband, Mark Kelly, now represents Arizona in the U.S. Senate.
The friends and family of Giffords staffer Gabe Zimmerman created Beyond, an organization that promotes health and well-being and sponsors outdoor events to get people involved in our community.
As we mark the 10 years since the mass shooting that changed Tucson, letโs remember our resiliency, kindness and follow the example of survivors who are showing us the way forward in so many good ways.