Nicole Werner never thought sheβd be where she is now.
The 38-year-old mom of four is getting ready to graduate from Pima Community College with her associateβs degree with a concentration in psychology.
Sheβs the commencement speaker at this yearβs May 23 graduation ceremony, where she plans to speak about diversity and coming together as a community.
Wernerβs journey at PCC started when she received her high school equivalency diploma a few years ago. At the time, she was also going through a divorce.
β(School) was something I wanted to do,β she said, adding that it was harder to go back to school when her kids were younger.
βI was raising four kids and once my youngest was in kindergarten, I wanted to establish my own freedom for myself,β she said.
Werner said she had been on her own since the age of 16 and, at the time, wasnβt thinking about school.
She said she was living in βsurvival modeβ at the time, not thinking about the future but thinking of the βimmediate moment and what my immediate needs were at the time.β
βI was in a really bad spot and I had a lot of trauma in my past,β she said.
βI just want to stress to people that above all, if youβre suffering, seek help,β she said. βItβs really important.β
When Werner went back to school, she had to balance classes, caring for her children and at some points worked up to three jobs β in addition to managing anxiety and depression.
Also during her college career, she flew to Pennsylvania to be with her mother as she was taken off life support. She also lost two of her grandparents and took care of her ex-husbandβs medical expenses after a bad car crash.
βIt was really hard and it still is,β she said. βI think thatβs just life. If you wait for ideal circumstances to do something for yourself, youβre going to be waiting for the rest of your life.β
Sometimes she had to take fewer classes, but she never quit.
βThat was key for me β to slow down when I needed to, but not to stop,β she said.
Werner has since remarried and her youngest child is in middle school. Her oldest is 18 and a first-year PCC student.
She said her kids are her No. 1 inspiration and that her husband is extremely supportive.
βI never pictured myself in any of the roles I play today β a mother, a student, a wife,β she said. βI enjoy them so immensely and Iβm so, so glad I lived to be able to experience them.β
In addition to giving PCCβs commencement speech on Thursday, Werner will be graduating with her associateβs degree with a focus in psychology.
βIβve always been really interested in psychology,β she said, adding that mental illnesses run in her family.
And in the fall, Werner is off to the University of Arizona, where she was accepted into the Honors College.
She isnβt too sure what she wants to do as a career, but she knows she wants to help people.
As for her time at PCC, she said sheβs valued her experiences.
βIβve had a lot of professors and advisers here β almost too many to name β that, along the way, were pockets of inspiration,β she said. βI cannot understate the sense of community and family and well-being that I found here at Pima.β
