The demands of caring for a loved one can be stressful.
While taking care of a family member or close friend is one of the greatest gifts a person can give, it often results in high levels of stress and loss of self for the caregiver. One in every five people in the United States is currently a caregiver, and the majority are women.
Did you know?
- That caregivers report having health problems almost twice as often as non-caregivers?
- That half of those caregivers spend 10 percent of their income on caregiving expenses?
- That up to 70 percent of caregivers suffer from depression or isolation or both.
- That many caregivers are unaware of the educational resources that exist to help support them.
Family caregiving specialists at Pima Council on Aging say caregiving is today’s issue just as child care was in the 1980s. Employers also need to recognize and accommodate the reality that so many workers today have significant caregiving responsibilities at home.
An important aspect of becoming a caregiver is to remember to give yourself support, and be open to social interactions through support groups. PCOA Help Line staff are information specialists who will listen and share local resource materials for and about self-care and for temporary relief, or respite care. It’s a chance to refresh the relationships between you and the person receiving care. When you take care of yourself, you are better able to help the person needing your love and support.
Next month, my siblings and I will be deep in reflection as we remember the passing of our 98 -year-old father last January, after nearly 14 years of caregiving shouldered by my brother and his wife who offered and took the primary responsibility of caregiving. They took it on fearlessly with loving kindness, patience, tenacity, and good humor. My sister took the lead as long-distance caregiver par excellence. I settled into the role of shorter-distance caregiver who regularly offered to ‘drive over’ to the high desert of New Mexico for regular visits with our Dad, and often just to give them a break.
Our journey is like so many other stories about the dynamics of wading into family caregiving. Along the way, each of us found meaningful ways to appreciate the smallest tasks. Each of us also Each of the adult children found a specific way to contribute to shouldering the tasks while also finding ways to take care of ourselves.
No small measure of the journey is literally about learning how to complete fundamental caregiver tasks that many of us may take for granted. A host of activities of daily living, done correctly, are critical, repeated tasks, such as transfer from chair to bed, bathing, changing clothing, and more.
