Once up a time, a princess wanted a sister.
So she begged and begged, until finally her wish came true.
That is the fairy tale Maria Jordan MacKeigan lived, and that is the story she tells in her self-published childrenβs book βA Princess Wish,β based on the relationship between her two daughters.
But the MacKeigansβ story didnβt start out happy. At 20-weeks pregnant, MacKeigan learned that the little girl her 6-year-old Ana Maria had begged for would need open-heart surgery. Soon after, they learned the heart defect had to do with Down syndrome.
βAfter Jordan Grace had been born, I was trying to explain that she was different, and trying to tell (Ana Maria) she is going to take longer to talk and walk,β MacKeigan, 39, says. βSo Iβm just going on and on and bawling because itβs so emotional, and my daughter turns around and says, βMommy, so what?ββ
To Ana Maria, now 8, Jordan Grace was the sister she always wanted.
MacKeigan wrote the book for Jordan Graceβs second birthday in February.
βI was hoping it would open conversations between parents and children to learn about others with disabilities, people who are different, but want to play and have friends and want everything anyone else does,β MacKeigan says. βThey want to be loved and considered and included.β
And while the book features a little princess with Down syndrome, it doesnβt explain it.
That was MacKeiganβs own approach when she found out about her daughterβs diagnosis. Prior to Jordan Grace, she had never really encountered Down syndrome.
βI wanted to know Jordan Grace for who she was before I started labeling or classifying her with the things she would do,β she says. βI wanted her to show me what she was all about.β
The addition of Jordan Grace to the family has brought joy, but MacKeigan has encountered ignorance and even fear in others regarding her daughter.
And that hurts.
She spent about four months putting together this book celebrating Jordan Graceβs life and her daughtersβ relationship. She wrote and illustrated it, using an app to make photographs of her daughters look like sketches.
MacKeigan lives in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, but spent her teens and 20s in Southern Arizona and Tucson. They spend the summer months here, too.
βI just want to bring awareness to people who have never been touched by the beauty of Down syndrome,β MacKeigan says. βI thought my world was crashing and it would be darkness, but itβs all beauty and rainbows. I want people to know how beautiful it is.β